How To Go About Ur Soulmate Hunt ?

From my personal experiences and from the people around me I have come to a conclusion that one should not rush into any relationship. It could be too soon to commit to someone you have known just for a while. Life’s decisions should not be taken in a jiffy. Well here I am not talking about the time pass affairs which most of the people have. I am talking about the serious ones. The ones you want to spend your life with.

There should be a courtship period initially. In the courtship period only, you will get to know what a guy really wants. You have to see if he takes his decision himself or he consults 50 people before making a decision. If a guy always tells you that he will do whatever you want him to do, don’t let him do it. Try to know what he wants. And please don’t be dumb enough to ask him straight on his face what he wants. Nobody will tell you his intentions just like that.

But you can read intentions in their actions, what he does, where he touches you, where he is trying to kiss you, they all speak loudly of their intentions, please give it a serious thought. What kind of an environment he creates matters a lot. If he's keeping things natural as they are or trying to change it to fit his needs, it all matters

What he does and what drives him to do that. Which things led to his real intentions. If someone's trying to flatter you out of the blue moon, take it for granted that he is upto something. You will hardly ever get help genuinely from others. Happiness coming from 'people' is not always genuine. There are people who think about their profit.



And on a serious and decency note, there should be no sleeping together, if a guy forces you to do so then make it a BIG NO NO. The guy does not deserve you then. Today most number of guys think in this way, all they think about girls is sex nothing NOTHING else to talk about. One more thing, doing things in name of love is the worst idiotic reason. Kissing out of emotions is fine but kissing for sake of love is dumbest reason to kiss.

It’s very necessary that you spend time together. Spending time doesn't mean shopping somewhere together and eating somewhere together. Spending time with each other is a completely different thing from spending a day together. When we spend time together, we mostly discuss ones thinking. How people judge things. You talk all that. Discussing the materialistic likes and dislikes is highly irrelevant.[Do check that he is not behind you because of your status, your reputation, especially if you are too rich]


And explicitly just lookout for things like, what is his thinking and on what topics.
How does he justify his actions. In what cases he would consider hurting someone, without feeling any guilt. The only point to look is, the guys integrity and his decision making process. If he feels he made a mistake and its much better than blaming someone else and trying to justify his own position

Ya and these things you just don’t get to know them very easily. So the venue doesn't matter, till you get to know all these things about him don't go ahead with a relationship.

Don’t be impatient. These things often take time. And these things often happen in courtship, which should never be missing. It might take 3-5 yrs or even 6 months can be enough to know a person. It all depends on how seriously and how honestly you have interacted with each other. You shouldn’t hide anything thinking that it might hurt the other person. If you have a doubt on any part of his life, wait till he talks about it. How honestly he or she talks to you matters. How much a person pretends in front of you, that much you should avoid him. In a relationship, each other should stay in their respective comfort levels. If u r comfortable with each other then only u should think about future. If each others company does not make u comfortable then there is no point continuing that relation.

It’s not possible that one can lie to himself all his life. Just because you love someone and so you keep telling yourself that " I should be more understanding and accept all his problematic things " one should not keep such bullshit thinking. Because at the first place his problematic things will never allow you to love him. I am saying in the sense that you cannot lie and console yourself all your life. And the decision of spending your whole life with someone is a serious matter. It’s the matter of your whole life and life is like up to 80 years. The person you want to spend the rest of your 50 years, wont you think even a bit about him. Is it possible that one stays comfortable living a lie for 50 yrs. Just think it for urself.